Thinking bitter much bitter than speaking bitter

 Warning! You might question my intentions on what I really want to convey through this piece and guess what; I'm going to be veracious about that word - Intention. What is an intention? It is simply the deliberate endeavor targeted to invoke a particular outcome or reaction. Since childhood our parents have been conscious about the kind of people we surround ourselves with by giving reasons such as ''Don't be around this person, they do not have good intentions.'' But the alarming question for me here is that how do you interpret a person's true intentions? Is it by considering factors such as familiarity or how acquainted we are with the person so as to predict or even have faint idea about their natural behaviour or is it elucidated by our definition of what a ''good'' person is. But all of it is not even reasonably close at finding out a person's true intentions are. 

We as humans have this tendency or a fallacy to be more precise about the correlation of a person's intentions with the tone with which they convey their opinions or speak generally. A well-thought out, calm and indited person is conceived to be a good intended human being. One of my fears is encountering a person who is extremely equanimous but has evil ulterior motives. We often misconceptualise the intentions of a person on the tone of the conversation or gravity of the situation. And then form preconceived notions about people who yell, use foul language and lose their temper. But we might most probably miss what the person is actually trying to convey in the first place. For example, an actor who speaks truth about the toxicity of an industry she works in and how it operates in an environment that is not appreciative but does so in exasperation and in a very outrageous manner. Now the attention and interpretation that this gets might not be a favorable one as the question would then deviate towards etiquette of public speaking and how the actor may not be a good role model for kids and things like that instead of further discussing on the issue the actor mentioned about and their experiences regarding it. Another contradictory example might be of the so called ''religious leaders'' or ''god men'' as they are fondly called. Most of them will be extremely composed and well-spoken people but some of them are allegedly sex offenders, goons and murderers. Now can we term them as ''good'' human beings? Forget good they are not even qualified to be humans. 

The larger point I want to make here is we need to clearly differentiate between what a person speaks and what is the idea that they are trying to convey as opposed to just making judgment based on how they speak. The reason that we subconsciously make notions about people who lose their temper or use foul language in their speech is because of the immediate discomfort that it creates and we as humans don't appreciate that and which is what explains as to why comfort is so dangerous; because we don't realize its consequence immediately. A crab thrown in a hot boiling water will immediately feel vulnerable and make its best effort to get out of it whereas if you keep the same crab on water that is lukewarm which is boiling at a tremendously slow pace will enjoy and would prefer to remain there. 

Now the question that might be bothering you is what ''my'' intentions were in writing this and I won't tell as I will leave it open for interpretation as that would force you to think and that coincidentally is what my intentions truly are!